women!
What is it about us women that makes us so incredibly stupid when it comes to men and marriage? OK, so maybe stupid isnt the right word. I cant even think of a word to use that fits this situation.
I have this friend, lets call her Anne (not her name). She sat in my livingroom not 6 months ago complaining about her husband. He talks down to her, he doesnt respect her, he thinks he's better than she is, smarter than she is. You get the picture. Anyway, 6 months ago she's sitting here telling me that she's tired of it. She put her life on hold for this man. Gave up a career that she loved to work for 7.00 an hour in his law office. She doesnt deserve it and in October (after his birthday) she is going to ask for a divorce. "Why are you waiting until October?". "I dont want to ruin his birthday".
WHAT?!?! I wanted to hit her with a pillow! lol
Well, something happened 2 weeks ago with his daughter (adult daughter) and she snapped. She told him she was moving out of their house by the end of the week. Again I tried to talk sense into her. The mortgage is in YOUR name. The insurance is in YOUR name. The bills are in YOUR name. Dont move out of that house, you could stand to lose it in the divorce. Or worse still, he can ruin her financially by not paying anything. Nope. She's moving out because "he promised to take care of everything". Sure Anne, he's been a real upstanding guy all these years. No reason to think that will change right?
So the other night she is out with some other friends of ours and one of them happened to mention that nobody ever really liked him anyway because of the way he spoke to her and put her down when she wasnt around.
She called me spitting nails! Now here is where the majority of my confusion comes from. She knew he was a pompous ass. Did she honestly think nobody else noticed? 6 months ago she and I talked at length about what kind of man he was and now she wants to cry and scream because other people saw him for who he really was too. It really wasnt much of a secret.
I just dont get it.
2 comments:
Meh if she's going to react like that I wouldn't say a word.
I hope he doesn't screw her over with the house- WHY ON EARTH would she move out and let HIM stay?!
If she's already moved out.. she's screwed.. at least up here she would be.. it's called "Abandonment". So he gets to keep everything because she "abadoned" her property etc.
It's women like her that prompted me to write my book.
My former friend Carrie used to call me up "Bobbie came home with hickies on his neck".. " Bobbie took all the money out of our account!" 12 years later she's still with him... go figger..
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