April 29, 2009

tired

I'm afraid I've given up. EVERYTHING feels like work. Getting out of bed in the mornings is a job. I havent checked monster.com or dice all week. I sit in the chair, turn on the computer and a huge wave of "whats the point" washes over me. I had an interview yesterday. I wont get the job. I think my attittude sucked. I drove up there feeling like I was wasting my time and it probably affected my behavior during the interview. I came home and went back to bed. I didnt even cook for the kids last night. dieting seems pointless. I have no appetite at all. I'm living on apples.

14 years finally showed up yesterday with money. He's supposed to be giving me 600.00 a month for child support. I dont think he's given me 600.00 all year. Crys about HIS problems. Yesterday it was all I could do to not punch him in the head. What's really funny (ok NOT funny) is when I had a job, he paid regularly. I lost my job in October and he started screwing me with money in November. But it's always about HIM and HIS problems. I dont even think I care anymore.

Anyway. I didnt come here to whine. I'm sorry. I came here to try to remember where I left my sanity. I had it when I started this blog. I was so hopeful and full of confidence. I just want to find it again

April 19, 2009

finally feeling better

I thought I was gonna die! I bought some over the counter stuff on Thursday and by Friday afternoon my blood pressure was so high I thought my head was going to explode. I slept all day Friday and Saturday and most of today. The few minutes that I was awake I laid in bed and prayed not to die. I was really afraid. My bp is back to normal (MY normal) and I can breath.

Tomorrow is my day to step on the warscale. I dont expect to see much change. I had to cancel my WW online subscription for now. I'll reactivate it once I find a job. For now I'll just count calories and hope. Who knows, maybe I'll have some luck. The WW thing really wasnt working for me anyway. I've decided to blame WW for my weight loss failure... nope, wasnt MY fault :D

I'm kinda bummed that I was sick all week. The cherry blossoms were out :( I found this picture online. It's the park near here.



The town blog has lots of pictures. I wish I could've seen them. Oh well, there's always next year.

April 15, 2009

its only Wednesday?

Today feels like the week should be over. I woke up this morning and couldnt move. Of course son #3 wouldnt get up again. I love that little boy SO much but in the mornings? notsomuch :( No matter what time that boy goes to bed he is a monster when you have to wake him up.

I'm supposed to have a job interview today. I dont think I can make it. First of all, I'm still sick. Its cold and raining. I can never move on days like today. Couple that with my torture session yesterday - my knees feel like they're going to snap when I walk. This interview is for Goodwill Industries. They do so many good things for people in need. I would love to be a part of an organization like that. The only problem is that their corporate office is in Queens NY. Only a crazy person would make that drive everyday and buses/trains arent an option for me. I cant walk to the corner deli, how do I think I can make it to the bus stop 5 blocks away? OK (I tell myself) I can drive my car down the street and take the bus. But then I have to get off the bus at Grand Central then walk to the subway then walk from the subway stop to the building. God only knows how many subways I'd have to take. I would give anything to be normal!

SO now I need an excuse to postpone this interview. Notice I said postpone and not cancel. Somedays I refuse to believe that I have limitations. I wonder what a shrink would say about that.

On the lighter side!! I just got this in email. According to the subject line it's Barbies 50th birthday and look how well she has aged

April 14, 2009

9am... My head hurts, my nose is stuffy, my entire body aches and I have to start physical therapy today :(

Can I call out sick?

7:00 pm... I really really really hope PT counts as exercise coz I'm done. They tortured me for almost 2 hours! Can you do this? Do that! Bend this way. Now bend that way. Hot packs. Cold packs. LIttle electrical thingys. I hurt in places I forgot I even had and I'm supposed to do this 3 times a week!?!?

I had therapy after my first surgery and I dont remember it ever hurting this much. They told me that since I never had PT after the second or third surgeries plus the accident I'm extra damaged. All I know is it hurt like hell.

Dinner tonight? Are you kidding me? COOK?!?!? No way Jose... I ordered pizza.

April 13, 2009

what to do!!

Hope everybody had a wonderful Easter :) I did. We went to Easter vigil on Saturday night. That's my favorite service of the year, it's so beautiful. We start in the dark, theres a small bonfire burning in the back of the church, everybody holds candles, they always bring in a full band with kettle drums and trumpets. This year we had a cellist. Easter vigil is usually a 2 hour service. This year it was almost 3. My back kills me after a normal 1 hour mass. I walked out of there like a cripple. Easter morning I couldnt move. I havent felt pain like that in months. It took every ounce of what I had to cook.

Dinner was nice. Ham, baked mac & cheese, mixed vegetables, glazed carrots. My mother and brother came to dinner. My second son decided going to the movies with his friends was more important than sitting down to dinner with us but whatever. I started to argue with him about it but quickly gave up. If he didnt want to be here then I didnt want him here. He'd have just had an attittude and ruined our meal. I was proud of myself, I didnt eat too much. But then, fighting with Jimmy kinda ruined my appetite.

Then my first son's new girlfriend came over. They've been seeing each other for a little while now but this was the first time I met her. I swear if he doesnt marry her then I will! The first thing you notice about her is she is GORGEOUS. She is tall, has long, straight black hair, big brown eyes and a smile that lit up my living room. She is well spoken and polite. I asked her how her Easter was. She frowned a little and said that she'd had to work. She works at a radio station on weekends. During the week shes a fulltime college student, she's studying to be a speech therapist.

While we were sitting here making small talk I commented on her bag. I asked where she got it. I have a pocketbook fetish but have a problem finding bags that I like in the store. I'll stop strangers on the street to find out where they got theirs just so I know where to shop the next time. Her's was really nice. She told me she got it in NY and I said something like "That is really nice. Next time I go shopping that's where I'm going" Next thing I know she is offering me hers! She said she never uses it and that I could have it. I declined, told her that I wasnt going to take her bag. "No really, I never use it". "You're sweet but I cannot take your bag". Then the subject changed to her new puppy and I didnt think of it again. This morning I wake up and the bag is on my kitchen table.



Now I feel horrible. This girl walked out of my house with her stuff in a plastic bag :( I didnt comment on it because I wanted it! I was complimenting her sense of style. I asked my son why he let her do it. He said "she's a grown woman, she does what she wants" He said he tried to talk her out of it but she wouldnt hear it.

What do I do? Do I insist she take it back? I really feel bad! I dont want this girl being afraid to come over here because she's afraid I'm going to want her stuff. How can I ever compliment her again? On the other hand I dont want to insult her or hurt her feelings.

HELP!!!

April 9, 2009

creepy?

I think I was just asked out by my sons friend!

My son and this kid were friends all through grade school up to middle school (I think it was around the 8th grade they stopped hanging out). One day the friend was smoking a joint and my son walked away from him, ended their friendship right there. Fast forward 10 years.... I'm coming in the house and I see him walking down the street. He calls my name, we say hello. He asks how my son is, what he's up to... regular smalltalk, no biggie. He asks for my son's phone number. I dont have a pen so I tell him to come upstairs. I'm walking up the stairs (he's following behind). He says "wow, you're looking pretty good these days". I think nothing of it. "Thanks" Then he says... "when are we going to get together?" "excuse me?" he doesnt answer, he just smiles. I must be dense or something because I gave him my sons phone number, he gives me his. I tell him that I'll make sure Jay gets it. He says "no, that's for you. Call me sometime"

WHAT?!?!!??

I feel like I need a shower :(

April 8, 2009

great shoes & brown fat… what a day!

Yesterday, in the middle of my crying fit, I had an appointment with my orthopedist. I've mentioned my car accident havent I? If I have you can skip this paragraph. 5 days after I lost my job I had my final epidural. The pain management specialist that I was going to does these epidurals under general anestesia so also owns a car service. It's an insurance deduction for him, you're not supposed to drive immediately after general anestesia. On the day my last injection the car service was driving me home and the driver crashed into another car. I was in the back seat, with my seat belt on, minding my own business reading a book. All of my medical bills have to go through my insurance company. I think that's ridiculous since my car was parked in front of my house at the time (I didnt even have my car keys) but NJ is a no fault state so all my stuff has to go through my insurance, not the car service. Now here's where it gets tricky. According to Allstate I checked the box authorizing my primary health insurer to be my PIP carrier. I dont remember ever checking that box, I looked on my original policy and that box isnt checked. They say I checked it on the next renewal, I dont remember doing that. Since I was laid off 5 days earlier I didnt have insurance. My attorney says that since I had no primary insurance at the time, that Allstate has to pick up all of these bills since they're my secondary insurance. Allstate says otherwise. Anyway, I'm not getting into that mess right now, it makes my head hurt. Let HIM fight that battle, he's getting 33% of my settlement... let him earn his money!

The insurance company says that my primary care doctor has done all he can so they arent paying for any more visits (like it matters.... they're declining all the charges anyway). They say I need to see an orthopedist or a physiatrist. When I saw that independent medical review and the word psysiatrist I went nuts. I called my lawyer screaming "they're saying I'm crazy! I'm not imagining this pain!". He, of course, laughed at me. Psychiatrist's deal with emotional disturbances, physiatrists specialize in physical therapy. Who knew! lol

So yesterday I walked into my orthopedists office, first words out of his mouth are "those shoes are too old, you need new ones". He tells me that sneakers break down after a few months and even though they look in good condition, the insoles break down and they're actually bad to wear. So now, on top of everything else I have to buy sneakers. I go to Sports Authority and see a nice pair of Nike Air Vitalitys. They have my size, and they're on sale. Here comes the salesman "do you need any help?" "nope, I have what I need" "are you sure? we have a lot of shoes here". My son starts to tell him about my back problem and the surgeries and the metal bars and he (the salesman) tells me that I'm wasting my money buying air soles, they break down much sooner than regular sneakers. He shows me these white New Balance, says they're much better than the Nike Air. Says they're 1st choice of nurses and other people who have to be on their feet 10-12 hours a day. I tried them on, they felt ok and were the same price as the ones I'd picked so I get them. I get them home and put them on. 10 minutes later my feet are crying. They're hard to walk in, they dont bend at the toes. Now I get that you have to break them in but I cant have extra pain anywhere in my body until they break in so I brought them back.

I had the original Nike Airs in my hand when I see these Brooks (the picture is the color I actually got)





My neighbor had just been talking about Brooks shoes. He's in the police academy and said the Brooks were the best sneakers he's ever worn. So I tried them on. OMG they're like wearing pillows on your feet!! The ones that I got are normally 95.00, on sale for 60. That's a little more than I intended to spend but I think it was worth it. Can you hear my credit card crying? I think they can hear it in Kansas.

Oh, and if there's a Sports Authority in your area, they have this great deal. For an extra 5 bucks you can get insurance on your sneakers. If they rip, tear or seperate, or the color fades, or the lace holes break or that metal comes off, or ANYTHING ELSE goes wrong with your shoes for 1 year they will replace them. The guy told me in 6 months (when it's time for new shoes) to rip a seam, return the shoes and get new ones for free! Check into it... I think it's a great deal!

What is it about shopping that instantly makes you feel better? I felt like shit all day. Still depressed over yesterdays rejection, still stressed over money. Yet you go into a store and you leave happy. What is that?

I just read the most fascinating article on nytimes.com about weight loss! I'll paste the article below but sum it up here. We have fat cells, brown fat cells, that burn calories faster in the cold. We are born with these brown cells but lose them as our bodies mature and learns to warm iteslf. They put these mice in a cold room for a week and they lost 14% of their weight just by being cold!! I want these fat cells :) I'd live in my refridgerator





April 9, 2009


Calorie-Burning Fat?

Studies Say You Have It




For more than 30 years, scientists have been intrigued by brown fat, a cell that acts like a furnace, consuming calories and generating heat. Rodents, unable to shiver to keep warm, use brown fat instead. So do human infants, who also are unable to shiver their muscles to stay warm. But it was generally believed that humans lose brown fat after infancy, no longer needing it once the shivering response kicks in.

That belief, three groups of researchers report, is wrong.

Their papers,
appearing Thursday in The New England Journal of Medicine, indicate that nearly every adult has little blobs of brown fat that can burn huge numbers of calories when activated by the cold, like sitting in a chilly room that is between 61 and 66 degrees.

Thinner people appeared to have more brown fat than heavier people, younger people more than older people; people with higher metabolic rates had more than those whose metabolisms were more sluggish, and women had more than men. People taking beta blockers for
high blood pressure or other medical indications had less brown fat.

“The thing about this brown fat is that it takes a very small amount to burn a lot of energy,” said Dr. C. Ronald Kahn, head of the section on
obesity and hormone action at the Joslin Diabetes Center in Boston.

The fat really is brown, researchers say, because it is filled with mitochondria, cells’ tiny energy factories. Mitochondria contain iron, giving the tissue a reddish brown color.

The hope is that scientists may find safe ways to turn peoples’ brown fat on, allowing them to lose weight by burning more calories. But researchers caution that while mice lose weight if they activate brown fat, it is not clear that people would shed pounds — they might unwittingly eat more, for example. The data on global patterns of obesity are not good enough to say whether living in a cold climate makes people thinner.

The best evidence for the effects of brown fat is from earlier studies in mice, said Leslie P. Kozak, a professor of molecular
genetics at the Pennington Biomedical Research Center of Louisiana State University.

Recently, Dr. Kozak put mice predisposed to obesity in a cold room, 41 degrees, for a week. The animals activated their brown fat. As a result, they lost 14 percent of their weight, which constituted 47 percent of their body fat, while eating a high-fat
diet with two and a half times more calories than they had consumed at room temperature. “That’s just by going out in the cold, without any drug treatment,” Dr. Kozak said. But, he cautioned, mice, small animals with a comparatively huge surface area, are easily chilled. “Put the mouse in the cold,” he added, “and it becomes a heat producing machine.”

Jan Nedergaard of the University of Stockholm did the opposite of Dr. Kozak. He and Barbara Cannon, also at the University of Stockholm,
studied mice that were genetically engineered so their brown fat could not burn calories. The animals became fat.

“Until very recently, we would have said that it is doubtful that differences in brown fat really could contribute to obesity,” Dr. Nedergaard said. Now, he said he had changed his mind, at least for mice.

The key to finding brown fat in humans was PET scans, which pinpoint areas where cells are actively burning glucose. Because brown fat rapidly burns glucose to produce heat, it lights up in the scans. In two of the three studies, investigators also studied samples of brown fat that were removed from a few subjects, confirming that the cells had a protein, UCP-1, that is unique to brown fat.

Brown fat in adult humans was in an unexpected place. Infants have it mostly as a sheet of cells covering their backs. Rodents have it mostly between their shoulder blades, just down from the neck. But in adult humans, it showed up in the upper back, on the side of the neck, in the dip between the collarbone and shoulder, and along the spine.

That may be one reason it was missed for so long, Dr. Kahn said.

“There was an interest in looking at humans 20 or 25 years ago with different scanning techniques, but people were always looking between the shoulder blades,” he said. And since there is so little brown fat — just a few grams of tissue — it can be hard to find, Dr. Kahn added.

His study, one of the three published Thursday, involved 1,972 people who had had PET scans for a variety of reasons. The scans showed brown fat in 7.5 percent of the women and 3 percent of the men — an underestimate, Dr. Kahn says, because the people had not deliberately activated brown fat by getting cold.

Dr. Kahn and his colleagues also examined
biopsy samples taken from the necks of two patients. They concluded that what looked like brown fat in their scans was indeed brown fat.
A second study, led by Wouter D. van Marken Lichtenbelt of Maastricht University in the Netherlands, involved 24 healthy young men. Ten were lean, the rest overweight or obese.

The scans showed no brown fat when the men had been in a room that was a comfortable temperature. But after they were in a chilly room for two hours, scans showed brown fat in all but one, an obese man.

A third study, led by Dr. Sven Enerbäck of the University of Goteborg in Sweden, involved five healthy adults. Each had two PET scans — one after being in a room at a comfortable temperature, the other after being in a chilly room for two hours. The investigators saw brown fat in their chilled subjects. Three participants allowed the researchers to remove some white fat and some brown fat to demonstrate that what looked like brown fat in the scans really was that elusive substance.

The studies, investigators say, should stimulate research on safe ways to activate brown fat. It is known to be activated not only by cold but also by
catecholamines, hormones that are part of the fight or flight response. That is why beta blockers, which block catecholamines, can suppress brown fat activation.

Epinephrine, or adrenaline, and ephedra, a
herbal supplement containing epinephrine, can stimulate brown fat, said Dr. Rudolph Leibel, co-director of the Naomi Berrie Diabetes Center at the Columbia University Medical Center. But, he added, the drugs have too many side effects to be used for weight loss. While caffeine can boost ephedra’s effects, Dr. Leibel said, it is easy to eat your way out of a brown fat effect.

Brown fat, he said, “fits the fantasy — I eat what I want and burn it off.”

That, however, is still a fantasy, Dr. Leibel added.

If a drug that stimulates brown fat could be developed, said Dr. Claude Bouchard of the Pennington Biomedical Research Center, it would be the first obesity drug to affect energy expenditure rather than appetite.

Then there is the notion of simply hanging out in a cold room.

“We’re thinking of opening a frosty spa,” Dr. Kozak joked.

April 7, 2009

It came this morning in an email...

Thanks for taking time to meet with us this past week. We had an extremely strong group of candidates, of which your were one of the best, any of which would be a great addition to our business.

We did choose another person for the position, but we do appreciate you and your skills, and we are confident that you will find another position soon. If for some reason the other candidate is not able to fill our position, we will re-contact you to see if you are still interested.


Warmest regards,

They are confident that I will find another position soon. I wish that I shared their confidence. I have 2 weeks of unemployment left. Then what?

I’m feeling very whiney today so I’m going to save you from another “i hate my life, I want to die” post by not posting at all.


Cya's

April 6, 2009

is no news REALLY good news?

I've been a little afraid to post my *new* news. I was afraid I'd jinx it or something. Last Wednesday I went on a second interview for a job that I really, really want (see post from 3/29). They told me they were down to 3 candidates, me and 2 other people. I was there for almost 2 hours and I felt that it went great. They said they had one more interview that day and another the next day. He told me he'd probably know by Thursday afternoon but that he and his wife were going to take the weekend to make a final decision (his wife is the HR department... its a small, family owned business). He said he'd call me either way on Monday to let me know.

I prayed all weekend for this job. I had my family and friends praying too. Well, as you know, today is Monday. There was no phone call. :( I can only assume that means I didnt get the job, if I did I probably would've heard first thing this morning.

That was my 3rd second interview. Since being laid off in October I have been on 5 interviews, 3 of them asked me back for a second interview and I still didnt get the job. Not good enough not good enough not good enough.

Where's that cheesecake?

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